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Nervous Nellie

Posted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 9:02 am
by dorajar
"Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight." ~Benjamin Franklin

I have a hard time understanding a certain kind of fear or worry. One of my female co-workers usually gets to work about 20-30 minutes before I do in the morning, and she keeps the door to our space closed and locked until I get here. She says it makes her nervous being in here alone...at 7 AM...while other people are busily arriving right outside our office area... OK. That would never occur to me.

My boyfriend's roommate answered a Craigslist ad the other day to go check out an electric piano, and you would have thought he was going to pre-Batman Gotham City wearing a sign that said, "Kill me." He told us the address, called us as he was entering the house and again as he was leaving. We were given explicit instructions to call the police if more than 10 minutes passed between call #1 and call #2. Of course, he also makes us check on him periodically when he shovels the front walk to make sure he didn't get frostbite and perish in a snow bank. I know bad things do and have happened from Craigslist ads. In my mind, they would just never happen to ME.

I could go on and on with this list. I know I'm basically oblivious to danger and threats to my personal safety to an extent that might actually be unsafe. I just can't imagine worrying like that all the time, or constantly imagining the worst-case scenario. I'm just...not scared in that way. (Much to my dad's chagrin when I went to live in Africa, or slept in my car at rest stops from here to California). I'd hate to limit my sense of what's possible or what I'm capable of, just because of some danger of what MIGHT happen. The other night in NYC, I was going to meet up with a friend at a bar in Chelsea and I was 20 blocks away. It literally didn't occur to me until I was halfway there, on a stretch of dark, boarded-up blocks with no one in sight except the guy who just stepped out of a doorway as I passed that maybe a woman walking alone in an unfamiliar part of Manhattan at night wasn't so bright. I dunno.

So.

Are you nervous? Do you worry? Are the Bad Things that might happen prominent in your mind at all times, or not so much?

Posted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 11:22 am
by praecorloth
I don't think I worry. I tend to see bad possibilities in a lot of scenarios but I just keep my eye on the exits and go about my merry way.

Your first two scenarios seem...special. In an office I can see someone getting spooked when it's late and no one is there. Offices are just creepy like that. But 7am with people strolling in to start their day? Whatever.

And your man's roomie? See when I go off and do something that could be dangerous, I might let people know where I'm going and when to expect me back, but when I have to start involving them in some master plan to have the police bail me out, no. At that point I've bothered too many people. I'll just go and if I'm not home by whatever time they'll know where to look for me. Seriously, 10 minutes or an hour, if I'm not responding I'm probably dead anyways. I suppose with the 10 minutes scenario I could be in the middle of some hilarious violence. But the general idea stands.